Next week, we celebrate three birthdays in our family; mine, my oldest son DJ’s and my nephew’s.
I remember being in labor at the hospital and telling the doctors to do everything they could to make sure that my baby was not born on my birthday!! I admit it might sound a little selfish, but I wanted my own day!! Well, my wish came true, and he came the day before. We still call it our shared birthday and now, 16 years later, I can honestly say that I love sharing my birthday with him; I call him my greatest birthday gift.
Technically, we each have our own day. DJ’s birthday is April 30th and mine is May 1stand several years after, DJ was born, my nephew Mikey was born – on April 29th, so now all of the individual days seem to melt into one gigantic celebration of us.
Children really are the most amazing gift. The fact that I received him a day before my own birthday, is just one more reason to celebrate.
My parents have always made a very big deal out of birthdays. No matter whose birthday it is, we all get together to celebrate on the Friday before our birthdays. We go to the same place, The Reservoir. Since I was a teenager, this is where we meet EVERY weekend for Family Dinner. The owners and staff have known my family forever!! Since tonight was a “Birthday Friday”, there were more of us than usual but there was definitely a noticeable difference without mom and Francine.
Francine had been the dessert queen. Either she would make it, or get it from her favorite Italian bakery. Because of that, tonight’s dessert wound up being a last minute pickup as I grabbed an ice-cream cake on our way to dinner for us all to share because the end of a “Birthday Friday” can never end without dessert.
As everyone sang “Happy Birthday” to us we made our wishes and blew out the candles. I know we aren’t supposed to share our wishes, but my wish was that we would be spared of any more sadness for a while!! The truth is, tonight was fun, family time, laughter, good food…almost back to normal. Just with a few less people at our table.