Passion or Poor Sport?

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I was hoping that I could add an addendum to yesterday’s blog and say that I was wrong and the boys won their game…it almost happened.  They had a great game, pulling ahead after a seven run deficit, but in the end, they could not pull out the win.

The boys, who ranged in grades from fifth graders to seventh graders all dealt with the loss differently.  A few of them, along with my own son Drew, got angry and expressed themselves by slamming their helmets on the ground and storming out of the dugout.  Drew has never been known to be the best sport.  It is something we are working on with him.   Some of the boys were brought to tears.  I am not sure if it was the excitement of the game and being so close to a win or the ending of the season that did it.  It was heartbreaking to see them in tears.  There were a few who it didn’t seem to phase at all.

I don’t know what is the best or worst way to deal with it.  While I don’t like that Drew can be a poor sport, his passion for winning is so evident.  He is very hard on himself and blames himself and puts himself down if he has a bad game.  He is his own worst enemy.  Instead of focusing on what he did well in the game, he perseverates on the mistakes he made instead. He just can’t let it go.  Sadly, I think he gets that from me.

The good thing is that he doesn’t take it out or blame his teammates.  In fact, he is the loudest one out on the field cheering on and directing his teammates.  I always say that where he lacks in size, he makes up for in his loud, exuberant voice!  You can’t miss it.  Hopefully someday, he will be able to take that passion he has out on the field and be less and less frustrated with himself as he gets older. We will help him work on this because as parents, it is our job to instill and build up positive traits in our kids. If we can do that, we are helping him to become not only a better good sport, but a good person overall.

 

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4 thoughts on “Passion or Poor Sport?

  1. Sasha July 23, 2014 at 10:48 pm Reply

    What a great mom you are! I love reading your stories about your boys. Mine is still so young so I feel I can gleam some wisdom from you now! 🙂

    • clairesinclair July 24, 2014 at 6:50 am Reply

      Hopefully I am making the good choices then! There are plenty of days where I feel like my “good mom” skills have been put on hold!! It is so funny because everyone says,”They grow up so quickly” and you think to yourself how far away it seems but now, getting our 17 year out on college visits, reality is really starting to set in! Time FLIES by!

  2. M.B. Sanok July 24, 2014 at 9:48 am Reply

    We see this so much in wrestling which my son has been doing for almost 4 years. I think because there’s so much passion and aggression and actual mental strategizing that it really consumes them, and they break out in either anger or tears when there’s a loss, especially since it’s such an individual sport. It is hard to make sure they realize it’s just a game and/or that one loss does not determine anything. Great post as always!

    • clairesinclair July 24, 2014 at 3:44 pm Reply

      Wrestling, being an individual sport makes me wonder if that is even harder to deal with. All of the blame is upon themselves. I guess in the end, as long as we are teaching our kids to be good sports whether they win or lose, that is what is most important.

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