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Happy Anniversary

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Today would have been my parent’s 47th wedding anniversary.  It seems so odd that a day that we always celebrated went on as if it was just a regular day.  I am sure that my dad was thinking about my mom all day.  He was supposed to go with my sister to a play tonight, but there was some sort of “glitch” in the show and it was canceled.  It was a show that my mom would have loved to have seen.  Seeing the show would have kept him positive but instead, I think having to miss it, just made him miss her more.

We tried to have him come over for dinner but he wasn’t up for it.  It has been more than 18 months since she died, and even though we miss her everyday, some days are definitely harder than others.

Happy Anniversary

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Today would have been my parent’s 46th wedding anniversary.  They were married at Our Lady of Sorrows Church in South Orange in 1967.  They met at Columbia High School and began dating after my mom invited my dad to a “Sadie Hawkin’s Dance.”  Most of their married years were spent in Maplewood, although they did live in Washington, DC while my father finished his last year of college.  Together they raised four children and were great role models for all of us and I know we are all the people we are today because of their values and morals.

This morning, my dad had yellow flowers sent to their home, just like he did every year.  He always signed his cards to her, “Love, your Italian Leprechaun.”  This year was no different.  He did not want to do anything elaborate tonight.  He and my brothers went up to my grandma’s house and had dinner with her and my aunt and uncle.  They kept it simple.  Even when mom was around to celebrate, they never wanted to do anything, “just the two of them.”  They always said that their children were a product of their life together and so they always wanted to spend the evening with us.  In past years, we would all take them to dinner to celebrate.  Sometimes it wasn’t on the actual night because of commitments with our kids, but we always found a ways to celebrate them.  It was his choice to not do anything big.  He told us all to go on with our regular obligations for the night.  He knew that we were all thinking of them tonight.

I talked to my dad earlier in the day and wished him a Happy Anniversary.  I did not get a chance to get to the cemetery today to tell my mom but I had my own “private chat” with her in the car.  Hopefully she heard me and knows that we are all thinking of her today.

20 Years

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Today, Dave and I are celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary.

August 14, 1993 was a beautiful day.  I was 23 and he was 22.  We met Senior year of high school and dated all through college.  Some people thought we were too young, but we just knew we were ready.  Dave had a secure job at the time and I was just about to begin my first teaching job.  We did not think there was any reason to wait.  We just knew it was the right time. We have been able to grow up together and experience our lives together.  Like any other couple, we have had ups and downs, but fortunately there have been many more ups than downs. There’s no secret for getting through the rough times.  I am just fortunate that I have been going through all of it, good and bad, happy and sad with my best friend by my side.

Our wedding day was such a spectacular day.  My parents provided us with the perfect fairy tale wedding.  No detail was left undone.   So many special people were a part of it.  Every now and then we will go back and look at photos from the day. I get a bit nostalgic when I see some of those people who are no longer with us, but I also feel grateful to know that so many of those people are still a big part of our lives.  Friends of ours still to this day rave about the reception.  The food, the music, the weather….overall it really was a perfect day.

But, that day was just the beginning.  Just our launching point.  The rest of it has been a journey… a trip that I never want to end.