It is Father’s Day. A day to celebrate all of the wonderful dads and thank them for all they do for their families. This morning, like every Sunday morning, Dave left early to play soccer. His team plays weekly and I know it is one of his favorite parts of the week.
My dad loves brunch and nearly every year we have gone to brunch to celebrate Father’s Day. Last year was no different, although it was difficult not having mom or Francine there, we all got through it and as the year has gone by, the holidays are getting easier for us to get through. Of course we still miss them immensely, but the pain has subdued some and the memories we have are priceless.
This year, we couldn’t do our “traditional” brunch, since dad is still at Kessler Institute for a few more days, so we decided to bring brunch to him instead. We got him his favorite bagels and coffee and met my brothers and grandma there. It was a beautiful day so we went outside and ate in the courtyard. Dad used the walker instead of his wheelchair. He is slow moving but is getting better at it everyday. Two more days and he should be home. His life can start getting back to normal for him.
I am sending Father’s Day love to Joe Doubek today. His son Zach is still in the PICU battling this terrible illness. Today is Zach’s 12th birthday and I know he was looking forward to sharing the day with his dad celebrating! Instead, Zach was undergoing another surgery this morning. I know that Joe and Zach will be surrounded by family today at the hospital. Both Joe and Marnie have written about the beauty they have witnessed through the generosity of friends, family and neighbors. Their entire world has been turned upside down and although I am sure they don’t feel like celebrating right now, I know that their love and the loved being poured out to them will help get them through this.
We got good news for my dad today. He will be leaving Kessler Institute on Tuesday morning. They say he is making remarkable progress and will be able to go home without a wheelchair. He will have a walker which is only for emergencies and for balance… if he needs it, but otherwise will have a cane for support. That’s it. He is relieved and so are all of us. He should not need full time care at home which we were all worried about.
He wasn’t looking forward to spending Father’s Day there, but now, even knowing that he won’t be home for Father’s Day, having a discharge date has put him in a much better mood.
So many friends and family members have gone to visit him there and I know he appreciates the support from everyone. Keep those well wishes coming. They are working…and please send some along for my former student. He needs them now and all the positive energy you were sending to my dad worked so well, I am hoping that it does the same for him.
This quote comes from one of my favorite children’s books, “I Love You Forever” by Robert Munsch.
Once in awhile I still get one of those ‘rare days” where Drew wants to spend time with me. Today was one of them, (at least for a few hours.) He had a playoff game for soccer this morning and played so well!! I was so proud of him. The whole team did a good job but to hear his name being called out by parents on the sidelines as they cheered for a few of his strong plays or after making a few good plays as goalie, was awesome! They weren’t just cheering for him though. Everyone cheers for each others’ children. Many of these boys have been playing together for years others are new to the team this year. Dave is the coach and this is his passion. If only there was a “real job” he could get out of it someday. He is so good at it! The kids really respect him and he is all about teamwork.
Since Dave’s own soccer game coincided with this one, he sat out of his but met up with his own team after their game. That left Drew and me together for a few hours. I told him I’d treat him to lunch somewhere but we had to go visit grandpa to drop off some clean clothes for him. He chose McDonald’s which is right near Kessler Institute. He wanted to eat there rather than order it to go so we went in and although McDonald’s would never be my lunch of choice, it was nice to spend time just the two of us. I ordered a salad and he ordered what he always does, nuggets and fries. He splurged and had a McFlurry as well and devoured it, telling me it was the first one he’d ever had, but wouldn’t be the last!
We talked about school, (something he never wants to discuss,) summer camp, his summer baseball team, today’s game…just everyday stuff that this moody, preteen usually just mutters a one word response to. He is so excited about his soccer win today. This means that they are guaranteed first or second place and the coveted prize, a TROPHY!! He told me that as soon as he got home he was clearing off his trophy shelf to make room for the new one. That game is next weekend. Even Dave is excited. His team has never gotten this far along so today it is a happy day in our house.
If I got an entire two hours of “Drew time” today, imagine what will happen if they win next week!?!?