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Bridal Shower

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Today I am going to a bridal shower for my good friend and coworker Stef.  It is not a surprise, so I can write this before going!!

Her mom and bridesmaids have put a lot of time and effort into making this shower flawless and I am sure it is going to be beautiful. I am going with some of my other coworkers and it will be so nice to be out with them in a social setting rather than a working one.

I realized this morning, that Stef, (who was born the year I graduated from college,) would have started Kindergarten the year that I began TEACHING Kindergarten!!  I was 23.  I had just gotten married myself.  I remember my own bridal shower so clearly.  It was a complete surprise.  My bridesmaids, who did not all live in New Jersey, had all come in for the weekend, so I knew it was going to be that weekend, but it was not at all the way I had expected it to happen.  I had assumed my mom and sister had planned something for later in the day.  We had a big lunch all set up so of course I thought it was going to be then.  The family who’s daughter was my flower girl had asked me to help set up for a morning brunch for her parents’ 50th Wedding Anniversary.  Since it was early so I decided to go – fully expecting that I’d come home, get dressed and pretend to be surprised when they took me for lunch.

That’s why when I went to help set up for the “anniversary party,” I went in my pajamas, no makeup, hair up in a messy ponytail and I wore my glasses rather than my contacts. My mom always said that’s when she knew I had no idea that I was on my way to my own shower!!   I hated going out without contacts in but it was so early, I did not want to go through the hassle figuring no one would see me but the kids.  I got to the reception hall, fully expecting to help set up but instead, walked into a room filled with people who were there to celebrate ME!  My mom, in her typical fashion was laughing and was just so happy that she had pulled this off.  I was flabbergasted, embarrassed, elated and truly beside myself with emotions!  In retrospect, I wish she had at least brought my contacts for me to slip in quickly.  Thank goodness this was all before social media.  There are plenty of photos, but all of them are stored in a box in the basement.  I can look back at them and see all of my loved ones who came to celebrate with me that day.  I can see my mom and the pride and joy in her eyes and family and relatives who are no longer with us – but thankfully, there is no record of those photos anywhere on the internet!  Even though it was one of the happiest days, I am happy keeping the pictures safely stored in my mind and in that box in the basement!

Girls Night Out


Twice a year, my town holds a “Girls Night Out”, where the shops in the village stay open late and offer sales, restaurants have specials and friends meet up to shop, eat and mingle.  Tonight, was one of those nights.  A group of my friends had planned to get together and meet at one of the local restaurants.  The town was bursting with ladies this evening.  I am sure that the beautiful weather encouraged even more women to come out.  The group of women that I spent time with this evening included some that I know well, and others that I just met.  Sometimes those are my favorite types of nights out.  Mingling with different groups of people and finding similarities and links that could eventually form new friendships.

I have always loved my town.  I have lived here for almost my entire life.  Events like these, where so many people are out and about, and everyone knows each other, are one of my favorite parts of living here.  Just walking from the restaurant to my car, I stopped five times to talk to different people that I knew.  It makes me think of that old television show, CHEERS, “where everybody knows your name”.  It gives me such a sense of contentment.

It was so nice to see people out together, talking face to face and actually holding conversations.  In a world of social media, where texting, email and Facebook are so prevalent, it was great to see people, not hiding behind their phones, but actually having conversations with one another and enjoying it!  I admit that I am one of those people who always has my phone out.  I even used it tonight – but it was to show photos to the women I was with.  I did not even realize until I was walking to my car, that I had not heard from my husband, kids, dad… or anyone the entire time I was there…and I didn’t even miss it.

If Love Could Heal

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If love could heal a person, than my mother would be running in a marathon right now!  For those of you who do not know her, this would have been an impossible feat!!  She has COPD, is overweight and jokes about herself and how slow moving she actually is.

Our family, both immediate and extended has always been close.  We are always together.  Sometimes it almost seems we are a bit out of the ordinary considering how much time we all spend together and how much we enjoy these times. Even through this trying time, we have all been together laughing, crying and just enjoying each others’ company.

Social media can be an amazing thing.  We have each posted the news of mom to let others know what is going on.  She is so loved in her community.  We joke that she is the mayor.  She’s known by many as, “The Duck Lady” because of the charity duck race she runs every year.  People are offering meals, child care, love, support, prayers, visits…the list goes on and on. The phone calls, the messages….. it is overwhelming.  I use that word in a positive way.   I don’t know if I will ever be able to let everyone know how incredibly grateful my family and I are for your support.

I want you all to know that I am reading all of your emails and postings to her.  I don’t know if she can hear me but if she can, I know that she would be almost humbled at this outpouring.  She was not one to put herself before others and knowing that all of these people, some who don’t even know her, are out there praying and thinking of her would bring her to tears.

So I am offering an enormous thank you to all of you.  Keep praying and offering those positive thoughts.  She is a remarkable woman and I doubt she ever realized how many, many people she has had an impact on in her lifetime.