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What year is this?

to each his own

When I have free time, I enjoy looking for and reading blogs written by others.  I occasionally share my own blogs in blog shares and by doing that, I open myself to a bigger blogging world.  Although I consider myself a fairly religious person, some of the blogs I stumble upon are extremely religious and not really “my cup of tea.”  Sometimes I will still read through them and other times, skip over it and go on to the next one.  Although a blog may not interest me, very few actually get me upset.  Today, I happened upon one that I clicked because of the picture in the link.  It was from Little House on the Prairie one of my favorite shows from when I was a little girl.  I was excited to read it until I read the first paragraph and then, although it kept making me angrier, I couldn’t stop reading it.  I will not share the site because I would never want to add negative comments to another person’s blog and this is obviously what this woman believes.  To each his own I guess.

It began like this,

How better can a woman serve her family than by being at home?

It went on to ask how can a woman work outside of the home and still be able to provide “the best” for her family, calling the love working mothers give to their families, “the leftovers,” and asking how a woman can find the time to nurture and care for the needs of her family when she works away from the home full time.  She wrote the the bible says, “God created woman to be a helper and to compliment a man.”  WHAT YEAR IS THIS??  She continued by writing that working mothers are working “the wrong job” because by working outside of the home, we were not providing our husbands to a clean house, supper, a  hug and a smile when they come home at the end of their day.

This was not written fifty years ago.  This was written last month.  I didn’t realize there were still people that thought this way.  That was why the photo of Little House on the Prairie was there.  A time, (in her opinion,) that gave children roots, common sense and the courage to stand for what is right in this sinful world.

Well, I have to work.  I love to work.  I want to work.  I love to be a mom.  I love to be a wife.  I don’t think I am raising children who have no common sense or who lack values –  and through it all at the end of the day when I come home from work, I still greet my husband and my kids with a smile and a hug…most of the time 🙂

Hurried Woman Syndrome

doing it all

Do you ever have one of those days – or weeks – when you feel completely overwhelmed?  This is one of those weeks for me.  I am not sure if it is it not having enough time to do all that I need to do,  or just having too much to do?  Too many commitments and responsibilities?   Whatever it is…I am feeling it.  I am not alone.  I know this.  I feel like I am literally burning the candle at both ends – and I don’t want to burn out!!!

I just read that there is a name for this, “The Hurried Woman Syndrome.”   Before tonight, I never heard of this but there are many books and internet sites that talk about this!  Some of the symptoms for this are; a constant feeling of tiredness, frequent mood swings, lack of sleep and problems controlling weight.  It is estimated that nearly 30 million woman a year suffer from these symptoms!  Now, I don’t think I actually have something that I would actually call a “syndrome”…but I sure am feeling some of these symptoms this week!!  But don’t most women get to this point once in awhile?

Was this “syndrome” even around twenty years ago?  Are women taking on too much?  Do we really do so much more than our own mother’s did?  I remember days when my mom needed to take a break.  She did not work outside of the home, yet she was a very busy, very active stay at home mom raising four kids, getting us to and from all of our activities, taking care of the house, preparing all of the meals….the list could go on and on.  Did she get tired, overwhelmed, have mood swings….of course she did.  I guess there is just a name for it now – like there is for everything else nowadays.

he symptoms are easy to detect: constant feeling of tiredness, frequent mood swings, lack of sleep, problems in controlling weight and low sex drive – See more at: http://www.boloji.com/index.cfm?md=Content&sd=Articles&ArticleID=2722#sthash.HrxylpQT.dpuf
he symptoms are easy to detect: constant feeling of tiredness, frequent mood swings, lack of sleep, problems in controlling weight and low sex drive – See more at: http://www.boloji.com/index.cfm?md=Content&sd=Articles&ArticleID=2722#sthash.HrxylpQT.dpuf
he symptoms are easy to detect: constant feeling of tiredness, frequent mood swings, lack of sleep, problems in controlling weight and low sex drive – See more at: http://www.boloji.com/index.cfm?md=Content&sd=Articles&ArticleID=2722#sthash.HrxylpQT.dpuf

So many of us need to slow down, but where do we find that time?  I make sure that I find a bit of time each day for exercise.  Whether it is first thing in the morning when I go for a four mile walk with a friend, or take a class in the evening, that one hour is a release of some of the day’s stresses.  As often as we can, we try to make the time to all sit down and eat dinner together during the week.  Writing my blog is another good time for me to wind down.  It allows me to take a breather from school work, house work and everything else.  It has been over 300 days that I have taken a time out to write.  I did not think I’d be able to stick to my goal, but so far, I have done it.  Even now, after spending the time to write, I have already felt myself relax and calm down after a long, demanding day.

So for all of you out there – women AND men who are feeling hurried, take some time for yourselves and relax.  Take a breath and find some time for yourself.  It really helps!

Breakfast with Friends

old friends

Spring Break – with little to do!  This kind of opportunity rarely presents itself!!  This morning I had the chance to meet two good friends for breakfast.  A luxury!!  This is something I never get the chance to do and the three of us spent a few hours just catching up.  I talk to them often, but usually other things are going on, distractions that keep us from focusing on each other; kids are needing us, pets need to be walked, work to be done…never just the three of us alone.  It was great.  I almost felt guilty sitting there leisurely for two hours!  I felt like there was something else that I should have been doing!!  The three of us took notice of how many other people were out for breakfast that day.  Some of them dressed in tennis skirts and workout clothes, a few having breakfast meetings and others, like us, just enjoying a nice breakfast out.  Made me a little envious of “the stay at home mom”.  The three of us talked about everything from family, exercising, upcoming vacations, new recipes – everything.

The three of us have been friends for years.  Long before having kids, jobs and “adult stresses”.  We used to be able to get together much more often.  This week, my boys are off from school but old enough to be on their own. Their children are all in school.  If they weren’t, this breakfast could never have happened.  This was a breakfast, where none of us had any other commitments.  There was no one else to tend to other than ourselves.  Just three close friends catching up, as if not even a day had gone by.  We just fell right back into our old conversations, sharing what has been going on and reconnecting with each other.

I know as our children get older,  we will be find a way to balance their schedules and we will fall back into some of our old routines and get the chance to socialize more.  Maybe not for a long leisurely breakfast like today, with the constraints of our jobs, but after work for dinner or happy hour.  Until then though, we will grab the opportunities when we can and appreciate the times that we do get with each other, no matter how few and far between they might be.